my relationship with kink and kink world

Well, I've been around for long enough that my interest in such things is one of the things that makes people sketchy about working with me. Nobody says that about my love for great movies... I'm not really a kink person myself. My masochism is a solo practice, and I hate it when people want to get involved in that. However, lots of my friends are active practitioners, and I've been through some weird stuff (that seemed normal to me). - Despite being a creepy weirdo, I'm lucky that my brains are perpetually valuable, so people tend to operate with an out of sight, out of mind mentality (except over drugs). Other people aren't so lucky. However, now that I'm out as trans and not passing, people have an excuse to say I'm unstable. If I just pretended to be straight and not queer, they say, then I can return to either the office or the uni that initially had a problem with me. - Politically, kink rights are about as slippery as trans rights. Most of the mainstream gay culture doesn't want those things. People would generally say that they're not morally opposed to BDSM, but don't think that it's appropriate to reveal such things in a workplace. Wouldn't say that about being gay, so there's quite a ways to come. If the 1/3 or so of the queer community that's not LGB was the rich group, we'd have had our day in the sun.