How to reconnect with me

1. Meet me socially. Give me my social life back by apologising for the slander.
   

2. Accept that my value as a person goes beyond doing a gig for the NZSO.
   

3. Accept that I'm a composer by training, and a good one.
   

4. Allow me to have a life that isn't about being a token femme.
   

5. NEVER suggest that I have to perform to be valid, nor that I 'must' share my skills with your overprivileged undergraduates. If that's what you think, I have no choice but to take legal action. The courts can't compel a performance, so bugger off. Bluntly, you can only learn by doing when it comes to show music, so those eager beaver students are better off singing in the chorus of The Perfumed Garden or copying* my scores. *that's a technical term for creating instrument parts from the full score.